Sunday, March 23, 2008
Rude vs. Sensitive
I find this to be quite interesting as I had a situation last week at work with the same girl as mentioned in the last blog. I was told that I better get up front to see someone. First off, I was talking about an audio book I have and got interrupted to be told this by a "No One" a "Someone" that thinks because she has been somewhere 9 years and threatens to leave on a daily basis that she has control of others. I told her right back that I know what to do and already went up front and didn't need to be told again. I handled it in my usual low tone voice but got the point across. So many have complained of her and left as is always the case. Why is this allowed that people can get away with this I will never understand. Also I cannot understand why people don't say Hello or return it when passing others they know but thats okay too. This verbal abuse was witnessed by others to whom came up and said they heard it, how its not right and that they were there if I needed them. I then proceeded to see how one of my uppers (who heard all of this) was right there in the next office and said or did nothing about it. She and the other are pretty tight Professionally I may add she made that clear. I went to her upper to let him know because I knew this would happen eventually. One other Mgr. said to yell back! I cannot believe actually several have this kind of outlook. I am non confrontational but I will stand my ground and this isn't high school! I am nice yet not weak. I actually went back to the other Mgr. who did nothing and told her I didn't feel supported. She went on to say how she didn't think it was rude. Mind you this is a lady who is super aggressive like the other. She calls it "Assertive" what??? Assertive is moving forward with something that bitch was rude~~~ I was also told that I was sensitive which did nothing but make me madder. Yes who isn't sensitive at times and I can be in certain circumstances like something happening to someone I care about yada yada. This was not a circumstance that I was sensitive and I feel that remark was condescending.
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I do find it rude. I think they are just scared of her and most people are lazy and would rather have someone else take on the problems. I think it is inapropriate for someone to yell at anyone at work. And for a manager to say that well that is just stupid. I hate that people are this way. And I will go ahead and put it out there too I think they are scared of what she will do and say cause she is black. Thats the way it is all over. Tell her to mind her business and that you have got your job handled without her help. Or hey that there wasn't anything stated when you got hired that she was hired with you to do your job and maybe she should keep her mind on hers. Thats not rude. Its assertive.
Ahhh, there's nothing like office politics. I vote that you rip her eyes out on Monday. Okay, just kidding. My policy has been to just ignore bad people -- it always seems to work. It makes them crazy. This woman is definitely on a power trip. Just ignore her because the Universe will go on without her, and in the end, no one really cares about her insecurity complex -- she just needs to grow up and get over it, but she probably never will (maybe she was dropped as a baby). Best of luck.
Yeah that is true they are scared which sucks bigtime! Yeah that is funny about assertiveness and how they use that word to get out of being rude. I can be assertive when necessary but I hate confrontations. I try to go on in my peaceful world and ignore them which is best but if someone crosses me then watch out!!
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